Recently some of us at @happyops have gone through a period of change, brought about by hitting a birthday that ends in ‘0’. Let us not speak the number that comes before it, but instead speak about the changes that have occurred within us. In this article we continue the conversation started here:
Searching for “living your best life” describes drinking coffee, traveling overseas, practicing yoga, or writing in a journal. The Urban Dictionary provides this (somewhat jaded) definition of “living your best life”:
Living My Best Life
A stupid phrase that is used, commonly on Instagram, to give the false reality that you can wake up and choose which “life” you want to live. Perhaps you want to be a lazy dog, or a human facing the challenge of whether to have avocado on toast or a green smoothie for breakfast. Either way, it’s got to be the best (breakfast) life you could possibly be living.
Just posted a selfie, #Living My Best Life
by collegestruggles September 17, 2018
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For us at @happyops the idea of “living your best life” is simply this: that we will do better today than we did yesterday, that we will do better this month will be better than last month, that we will do better this year than last year.
That is not to say that things will get easier and everything will fall into place, we are still living in Samsara after all. Instead, we are talking developing ourselves day by day, such as:
- Getting a better work / life balance, rather than long hours spent at the office.
- Being more generous with our resources, to those that will treasure what we do not value.
- Having more time and patience for others, rather than rushing around having agitated conversations.
- Showing more kindness and affection for others, whether that means giving positive feedback to a work colleague or telling a friend how much they mean to you.
- To really contemplate and work for the happiness of others, rather than “chewing the words”.
We don’t expect to all be Buddhas or Bodhisattvas tomorrow, but a bit nicer and a bit kinder would be a great start. In this way we can make small improvements to ourselves that can be maintained over time, making our life better and better. Sudden face-first changes are often well-intentioned but short-lived when our energy runs out and we fall back to old habits. Meanwhile small improvements can be sustainable.