Work: Letting Go of Bad Experiences

This article is written by EH at @happyops.

This article continues my experiences about leaving my previous job. In the first article I wrote about my decision to hand-in notice at my previous job and the first giddy month away from the workplace. In the second article I wrote about what happened in my second month free from work and reflecting on some of the difficulties that I experienced in that job. In this third article I write about the practicalities of looking for a new job and the interview process.

The negative experiences from my previous job have stayed with me. I have learned from the positive experiences, but the apprehensive feelings have also stayed with me. The apprehensive feelings are around whether I will find myself caught in a similar situation as before, with a similar boss, working to some always-moving goal? As I begin to look for a new job I think that I am carrying that apprehensive feelings with me now, causing me to feel cautious about my next job.

As I look for a new job and go through the interview process, this will inevitably create concern for the interviewer. A big turn-off for an interviewer is an interviewee that is clearly holding on to the negative experiences of their past. It raises questions around whether the interviewee will create new problems or friction in the workplace. No interviewer wants any part of that and it will end in polite but firm “we don’t want you in this workplace” reply.

In other words, there is little use in holding on to these apprehensive feelings. These apprehensive feelings will not serve me, they will not serve me during the interview process for a new job, and they will have a negative effect on my general outlook. The apprehensive feelings will only weigh me down. Instead, I think that I need to reflect on the positive aspects of my previous job, including the following:

  • The positive interactions and colleagues that I had, even if there were disagreements along the way.
  • The projects that I worked on and the progress that I was able to make, even if I couldn’t finish all the projects and some were left incomplete.
  • The positive impact that I had on the company, including the culture of the company.

With this refreshed outlook I hope it will make me a better interviewee and make the interview process more enjoyable for myself and the interviewer. But I still need to ask the right questions to ensure that I will not find myself in the same situation. During the interview process I will need to ask about their expectations and see whether they are aligned with my own expectations.

Take this sister or brother, may it serve you well.

Wishing you every happiness, EH.